Amidst the News of Kate Middleton’s Cancer Diagnosis, Here’s How to Approach Discussing Cancer with Your Loved Ones
Cancer, a word that strikes fear into the hearts of many, has once again become a prominent topic of discussion with the recent revelation of Her Royal Highness, Kate Middleton’s diagnosis. The news serves as a stark reminder that cancer does not discriminate; it can affect anyone, regardless of status or privilege. As conversations surrounding cancer resurface, we acknowledge the inherent difficulty in broaching this sensitive subject. It’s a conversation often avoided, fraught with emotions of fear, uncertainty, and vulnerability. However, avoiding it doesn’t diminish its prevalence or impact. According to recent statistics, approximately 2 million people are diagnosed with cancer each year but with much improved survival rate, highlighting the urgency of addressing this topic head-on and in a realistically positive manner rather than a defeated one. Despite the challenges, it’s crucial to confront this reality and find constructive ways to discuss cancer with our loved ones. Intuitive Personal and Corporate Life Coach, Mason Farmani offers tips on how to talk to your loved ones about a cancer diagnosis.
Change the narrative about Cancer with new statistics: According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention the number one cause of death in the United States is cardiovascular disease followed by Cancer, yet we share the news about cardiovascular disease much easier than Cancer. We have been programmed to think about Cancer as a death sentence. However, according to American Cancer Society from the mid-1970s to 2013 to 2019, the 5-year survival rate for all cancers had increased from 49% to 69% and for many types above 90%, but our general attitude about cancer remains unchanged. We need to change the narrative and remember these statistics when we process the information about our diagnosis personally and in our communication with others.
Plan an Activity Together: Instead of having a formal fearful conversation, consider engaging in an activity together where you can naturally broach the topic. Whether it’s going for a walk, cooking a meal, or working on a puzzle, the relaxed setting can make it easier to discuss difficult subjects.
Create a Safe Space for Expression: Set up a designated “safe space” in your home where you and your loved ones can freely express emotions, thoughts, and concerns about cancer without judgment or interruption. This can be a physical space or even a virtual one, such as a shared chat group.
Introduce Humor: While cancer is a serious topic, humor can be a powerful coping mechanism. Find moments of levity and use humor to lighten the mood when appropriate. Laughter can help alleviate tension and bring a sense of normalcy to the conversation.
Encourage Questions: Let your loved ones know that it’s okay to ask questions and be prepared to answer them to the best of your ability. If you don’t know the answer, assure them you’ll find out together. Remember that there are no wrong questions, and everyone needs to feel safe to ask any questions.
Share Inspirational Stories: Seek out and share inspirational stories of cancer survivors or individuals who have faced similar challenges. Hearing about others’ experiences and resilience can instill hope and provide valuable perspective.
Seek Professional Help with a Coach or a Therapist: This helps you process some of your own fears and uncertainty. If needed recommend that to others in your circle.
How to talk to young children
Model healthy coping: Navigating a cancer diagnosis can be an emotional rollercoaster, leaving you feeling sad, scared, or frustrated. However, it’s essential to remember that how you cope with these feelings can profoundly impact your children’s emotional well-being. For instance, you might tell your children, “Today, I received some tough news from the doctor, which made me sad. But I’m choosing to spend time with you and watch our favorite movie together because it helps me feel better and gives me some space from worrying.”
Make sure they understand that cancer is not contagious: Let them know that they cannot “catch” cancer from anyone, and it’s okay to continue hugging and being close to family members or friends who have been diagnosed.
Encourage Questions: Let the child know that it’s okay to ask questions and express their feelings. Encourage open communication and be prepared to address their concerns with patience and honesty. Inquire about what feelings they are experiencing and acknowledge the expression of the feelings.
Be Honest About Treatment: Explain the treatment plan in age-appropriate terms, discussing what it involves and how it may impact daily routines. Sometimes it helps to break the process into pieces to share so their mind can get prepared. Another words, don’t start with the most difficult part of the process. Reassure the child that doctors and caregivers will do everything they can to help.
Use Visual Aids: Depending on the child’s age and learning style, consider using visual aids such as books, drawings, or diagrams to help explain cancer and its treatment more tangibly.